Do You Suffer from the Sunday Blues?

Depending on what source you look at, it seems that somewhere between 60 to 80 percent of us are affected by the Sunday blues. Whether you know them as the Sunday blues, the Sunday scaries, or anticipatory anxiety, this phenomenon occurs when our mind begins to drift to the week ahead, typically focusing on the […]

Are You Ready to Declare Your Independence?

In the United States, July 4th represents independence. This is the date that the Continental Congress ratified the Declaration of Independence. At its essence, the Declaration was the founders’ way of saying to the monarchy that the ways they were being treated were no longer acceptable and to create a framework for how this great […]

Building Your Lamplighter Community

The other day, someone asked me how I had amassed the lamplighters in my community. Let me back up for a moment and explain the concept of lamplighters. Lamplighters, for those not familiar with how I use the term, are those people who are invested in your success — as you define it. There are those who […]

How to Stick to a Plan and Build Momentum

One of the concerns I typically hear when it comes to planning the work and working the plan is that it feels too restrictive. The pushback I get usually sounds something like, “My workday is already planned down to the minute. Why must I plan for my vision as well?” I’ve often paraphrased Harvey MacKay when […]

Stop Using Shame and Blame as a Management Tool

The other day I was listening to an Unlocking Us podcast episode on shame and accountability. It struck me how many managers use shame, perhaps unintentionally, as a performance management tool. Let’s start by level-setting the two terms I’m talking about. Merriam-Webster defines shame as, “a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety.” They […]

Asking for Help is Cheating… Or is it?

I remember an incident from my childhood. My family was all in the car headed to a particular destination. My dad was sure that his internal compass would get us there. Somewhere along the way, we all became aware that his compass must have gone haywire because we were no longer headed in the right […]

When Did We Learn Not to Dream?

Do you remember when you were a kid, and anything was possible? Do you remember playing make-believe and imagining, in vivid detail, complete worlds and stories and lives? And yet, at some point, we were taught that our dreams were frivolous, unattainable, follies. Typically, this was imparted to us by an adult who’d been given […]

What, Why, What, and How… In That Order

Do you remember when you were a kid…or perhaps thinking of your kids…the incessant refrain of, “but why?” When asked to do something, children rarely take for granted the reason for that request. And, yet, as adults, we’ve unlearned that important pause. Instead, we leap into action (how) to accomplish the “what” or, worse yet, […]

Leveraging Your Time

In his book, Atomic Habits, James Clear talks about the concept of habit stacking. The idea here is to couple something you are trying to do with something that you already do. A great example of this was provided by a friend of mine the other day. We were commiserating about how much we both […]

Why Do We Think We Need to Go It Alone?

I find it fascinating that many believe that for their success to be truly theirs they must go it alone. When I ask them to point out a single person who is truly self-made, who achieved what they have with absolutely no help/support/guidance from anyone, they cannot. And yet the belief persists. To be clear, I am […]