Self Awareness is Hard

I’ve not met anyone who does not think themselves self-aware. I’ve also yet to meet anyone who has completely eradicated their blind spots. They are called blind spots for a reason…they are impossible for us to see on our own. It takes having folks around you whom you trust to help bring those blind spots […]

Feedback: Timing Can Be Everything

I am in the midst of building an online course. When completed, folks will be able to engage with this comprehensive program in a variety of ways…taking a single class; as a guided self-coaching series; or as a cohort with support from me throughout the program. As you might imagine, there are a lot of […]

What, Why, What, and How… In That Order

Do you remember when you were a kid…or perhaps thinking of your kids…the incessant refrain of, “but why?” When asked to do something, children rarely take for granted the reason for that request. And, yet, as adults, we’ve unlearned that important pause. Instead, we leap into action (how) to accomplish the “what” or, worse yet, […]

Leveraging Your Time

In his book, Atomic Habits, James Clear talks about the concept of habit stacking. The idea here is to couple something you are trying to do with something that you already do. A great example of this was provided by a friend of mine the other day. We were commiserating about how much we both […]

Are You Effectively Tapping Into Your Network?

Oftentimes, when working with a client who is exploring something new (a bigger role, a career change, etc), they lament that they don’t know where to start when it comes to preparing for this shift. This is a wonderful time to engage those who already know and like you. In this situation, there are three […]

Start a Mini-Revolution With Just 5 Minutes!

It’s midweek and I cannot tell you how many calls I’ve had this week where the person begins by apologizing for having been a few minutes late because the last meeting ran over. Inevitably, one of the reasons it ran over was because the meeting started late as attendees dripped in (having just ended their […]

Short-Term Pain for Long-Term Gain

It can be easy for us to fall back on old habits when the consequences of our current decisions will not be fully realized until some point in the future. But, small, committed shifts, repeated day after day, week after week, year after year, will add up. I was recently reminded of this when I […]

You Can’t Discover New Terrain Following Old Paths

Half of the island where we live is conservation land with beautiful trails running through it. As we were walking a new path the other day, I was struck by how often people get stuck in the ‘ ‘this is the way we’ve always done it” thinking. In other words, let’s stick to the path […]

Rebuilding Trust and Moving Forward

I was recently asked the question, “What would you tell Dr. Gay if she came to you for advice about how to rebuild trust and help the Harvard community move forward when there is quite a bit of pain and distrust among alumni, students, parents, donors, faculty and staff?” There are so many layers to […]

Educated Incapacity: The Problem With Being an Expert

There is a term, educated incapacity, and I really like how Herman Kahn explains it. He says that “the more expert a person is, the less likely that person is to see a solution when it is not within the framework in which (they) were taught to think.” This idea holds true for organizations as […]