How to Stick to a Plan and Build Momentum

One of the concerns I typically hear when it comes to planning the work and working the plan is that it feels too restrictive. The pushback I get usually sounds something like, “My workday is already planned down to the minute. Why must I plan for my vision as well?” I’ve often paraphrased Harvey MacKay when […]

Stop Using Shame and Blame as a Management Tool

The other day I was listening to an Unlocking Us podcast episode on shame and accountability. It struck me how many managers use shame, perhaps unintentionally, as a performance management tool. Let’s start by level-setting the two terms I’m talking about. Merriam-Webster defines shame as, “a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety.” They […]

Dream Big and Then Figure Out the Plan

When working with clients on visioning, I share a few tips to help make the undertaking a bit less daunting. First, I liken this task to looking through a telescope. A telescope will allow you to see a broad expanse, with great clarity, that is some distance away. This is what you want to focus […]

Asking for Help is Cheating… Or is it?

I remember an incident from my childhood. My family was all in the car headed to a particular destination. My dad was sure that his internal compass would get us there. Somewhere along the way, we all became aware that his compass must have gone haywire because we were no longer headed in the right […]

When Did We Learn Not to Dream?

Do you remember when you were a kid, and anything was possible? Do you remember playing make-believe and imagining, in vivid detail, complete worlds and stories and lives? And yet, at some point, we were taught that our dreams were frivolous, unattainable, follies. Typically, this was imparted to us by an adult who’d been given […]

Using OKRs to Stay Focused

We’re now comfortably into the second quarter of the year. For many, the goals you’d set for yourself at the beginning of the year have already begun to lose their sparkle — if they haven’t dulled and dusted completely. There tend to be two reasons for this. First, we jump out of the gate so […]

Never Enough Money, Access, Resource, Time (MART)

An easy way to remember external resources is with the acronym MART. The analogy I’ll give is to think about an actual mart, or market. You don’t control their hours of operation, the prices they charge, or the inventory they stock.  You don’t have control, but you do have choice. You may have a choice […]

Self Awareness is Hard

I’ve not met anyone who does not think themselves self-aware. I’ve also yet to meet anyone who has completely eradicated their blind spots. They are called blind spots for a reason…they are impossible for us to see on our own. It takes having folks around you whom you trust to help bring those blind spots […]

Feedback: Timing Can Be Everything

I am in the midst of building an online course. When completed, folks will be able to engage with this comprehensive program in a variety of ways…taking a single class; as a guided self-coaching series; or as a cohort with support from me throughout the program. As you might imagine, there are a lot of […]

What, Why, What, and How… In That Order

Do you remember when you were a kid…or perhaps thinking of your kids…the incessant refrain of, “but why?” When asked to do something, children rarely take for granted the reason for that request. And, yet, as adults, we’ve unlearned that important pause. Instead, we leap into action (how) to accomplish the “what” or, worse yet, […]