What, Why, What, and How… In That Order

Do you remember when you were a kid…or perhaps thinking of your kids…the incessant refrain of, “but why?” When asked to do something, children rarely take for granted the reason for that request. And, yet, as adults, we’ve unlearned that important pause. Instead, we leap into action (how) to accomplish the “what” or, worse yet, […]

Leveraging Your Time

In his book, Atomic Habits, James Clear talks about the concept of habit stacking. The idea here is to couple something you are trying to do with something that you already do. A great example of this was provided by a friend of mine the other day. We were commiserating about how much we both […]

Why Do We Think We Need to Go It Alone?

I find it fascinating that many believe that for their success to be truly theirs they must go it alone. When I ask them to point out a single person who is truly self-made, who achieved what they have with absolutely no help/support/guidance from anyone, they cannot. And yet the belief persists. To be clear, I am […]

A Road Closed: What happens when things don’t go as planned

Picture this scene…you have a destination clearly in mind. You’re making fast progress on your route and suddenly, BAM! there is a “Road Closed” sign ahead. Do you give up? Do you turn around and go home? Do you decide that the universe obviously knows better, and this is a signal that you shouldn’t be […]

You Can’t Be Talking About Me… and Other Responses to Feedback

Have you ever gotten feedback and struggled to know what to do with it? I’m not talking about feedback that is vague or poorly delivered (those are topics of their own) but, rather, feedback that you struggle to get your head wrapped around or continue to write off. If you have, or if you’ve tried […]

Are You Effectively Tapping Into Your Network?

Oftentimes, when working with a client who is exploring something new (a bigger role, a career change, etc), they lament that they don’t know where to start when it comes to preparing for this shift. This is a wonderful time to engage those who already know and like you. In this situation, there are three […]

Start a Mini-Revolution With Just 5 Minutes!

It’s midweek and I cannot tell you how many calls I’ve had this week where the person begins by apologizing for having been a few minutes late because the last meeting ran over. Inevitably, one of the reasons it ran over was because the meeting started late as attendees dripped in (having just ended their […]

Short-Term Pain for Long-Term Gain

It can be easy for us to fall back on old habits when the consequences of our current decisions will not be fully realized until some point in the future. But, small, committed shifts, repeated day after day, week after week, year after year, will add up. I was recently reminded of this when I […]

You Can’t Discover New Terrain Following Old Paths

Half of the island where we live is conservation land with beautiful trails running through it. As we were walking a new path the other day, I was struck by how often people get stuck in the ‘ ‘this is the way we’ve always done it” thinking. In other words, let’s stick to the path […]

It’s Not Your Story to Write

What happens when your vision of what someone else’s life should look like doesn’t match theirs? I’ve seen this result in wonderful, deep, rich dialogues, and I’ve seen it result in alienation. It helps to remember that it is not your story to write. Knowing this doesn’t make it easier when you care about the […]