Do You Suffer from the Sunday Blues?

Depending on what source you look at, it seems that somewhere between 60 to 80 percent of us are affected by the Sunday blues. Whether you know them as the Sunday blues, the Sunday scaries, or anticipatory anxiety, this phenomenon occurs when our mind begins to drift to the week ahead, typically focusing on the […]

Are You Ready to Declare Your Independence?

In the United States, July 4th represents independence. This is the date that the Continental Congress ratified the Declaration of Independence. At its essence, the Declaration was the founders’ way of saying to the monarchy that the ways they were being treated were no longer acceptable and to create a framework for how this great […]

Building Your Lamplighter Community

The other day, someone asked me how I had amassed the lamplighters in my community. Let me back up for a moment and explain the concept of lamplighters. Lamplighters, for those not familiar with how I use the term, are those people who are invested in your success — as you define it. There are those who […]

Don’t Bite Off More Than You Can Chew

When individuals move from having created their compelling vision of what success means to them of a life well-lived to designing a plan that will see them moving in that direction, I caution them to start slowly. One of the biggest reasons I have seen people abandoning their dreams is that they dive in headfirst […]

Do You Need to Get Better at Giving Feedback?

As a manager, one of our most important jobs is to give feedback to those we work with. The purpose of that feedback is two-fold. First, to recognize what they are doing well. Reinforcing those things you would like them to continue to do. Second, to address those areas of performance that need to be […]

How to Stick to a Plan and Build Momentum

One of the concerns I typically hear when it comes to planning the work and working the plan is that it feels too restrictive. The pushback I get usually sounds something like, “My workday is already planned down to the minute. Why must I plan for my vision as well?” I’ve often paraphrased Harvey MacKay when […]

Stop Using Shame and Blame as a Management Tool

The other day I was listening to an Unlocking Us podcast episode on shame and accountability. It struck me how many managers use shame, perhaps unintentionally, as a performance management tool. Let’s start by level-setting the two terms I’m talking about. Merriam-Webster defines shame as, “a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety.” They […]

Dream Big and Then Figure Out the Plan

When working with clients on visioning, I share a few tips to help make the undertaking a bit less daunting. First, I liken this task to looking through a telescope. A telescope will allow you to see a broad expanse, with great clarity, that is some distance away. This is what you want to focus […]

Asking for Help is Cheating… Or is it?

I remember an incident from my childhood. My family was all in the car headed to a particular destination. My dad was sure that his internal compass would get us there. Somewhere along the way, we all became aware that his compass must have gone haywire because we were no longer headed in the right […]

When Did We Learn Not to Dream?

Do you remember when you were a kid, and anything was possible? Do you remember playing make-believe and imagining, in vivid detail, complete worlds and stories and lives? And yet, at some point, we were taught that our dreams were frivolous, unattainable, follies. Typically, this was imparted to us by an adult who’d been given […]